Shirley Ellen (Stager) Sheaffer

Born: Sun., Sep. 6, 1931
Died: Thu., Aug. 31, 2017

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Location: Myers - Buhrig Funeral Home and Crematory

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Shirley Ellen (Stager) Sheaffer

Shirley Ellen (Stager) Sheaffer, age 85, of Lower Allen Township, passed away at Claremont Nursing and Rehabilitation Center in Carlisle on Thursday, August 31, 2017.  Shirley was born on Sunday, September 6, 1931 in Harrisburg to the late Frederick O. Stager and Edna (Calhoun) Stager.  Shirley was the widow of Carl William Sheaffer who died on April 12, 2008.  In addition to her parents and husband, Shirley is preceded in death by her grandson, Benjamin Eckert; her two son-in-laws: Fred Orner, and Bob Jones; and her six siblings: Richard, Bertha, Sarah, Betty, Helen, and her twin sister, Charlotte.

Shirley’s survivors include her two daughters: Bonnie Orner of Mechanicsburg, and Sharon Jones and her companion, Bill, of Delaware; her three granddaughters: Carol Shenk and her husband, Dennis, of Lancaster, Karen Crawford and her husband, Erik, of Dillsburg, and Sharon Filipovich and her husband, Brad, of Carlisle; her eight great-grandchildren: Kaley, Holly, Gabe, Courtney, Jessica, MacKenzie, Jonathan, and Jacob; her sister, Gloria Wingert; and her dear and loyal friends, Tom and Ruth Yohe of Shiremanstown.

Shirley’s family remembers:  “Shirley spent many of her working years as presser in the Grantham Dress Factory and later was employed by the Fairfield Hotel in New Cumberland.  While we are sure Shirley was a model employee, the job she loved the most was being a mother, grandmother and especially great grandmother.  It was not uncommon for all rules and parental limits set on her great grandchildren to go out the window as soon as they stepped into Shirley’s house.  Eating sugar cookies in the morning and being filled up with candy by lunchtime was not just encouraged at Grams house, it was expected.  Shirley also had 2 separate dogs (both named Mackette) in her later years that she was devoted to and showered with treats and affection.  Not only were her dogs showered with affection, Shirley was an animal lover and she always had dog treats hidden in her pockets and freely given to any dogs she came across.  Shirley was an excellent baker.  Her homemade sugar cookies were the stuff of legend and always in demand by family and friends.  However, the demand for sugar cookies paled in comparision to the requests for her homemade apple dumplings.  The combination of her homemade dough and fresh apples were a delicacy that family members looked forward to and requested quite frequently.  Shirley was also a very good cook and like many of her generation really excelled at items that were either fried, saturated in butter or otherwise generally considered unhealthy by todays standards…but they were delicious.

In a refreshing way, Shirley was not and never tried to be politically correct.  She was never shy to express her beliefs, views and opinions on anyone that wanted to listen or even those that didn’t want to listen.  Shirley was known for making telemarketers sorry they ever dialed her number and we are sure most put her on the Do Not Call list voluntarily.”

Shirley’s family will be remembering and celebrating her life privately.  Burial in St. John's Cemetery in Mechanicsburg will be at the family’s convenience.

The family sends their most heartfelt thanks to everyone at Claremont Nursing & Rehabilitation Center who so lovingly cared for Shirley.

Contributions in celebration of Shirley’s life can be made to Humane Society of Harrisburg Area, 7790 Grayson Road, Harrisburg, PA 17111.

Shirley’s family has entrusted her care to Myers – Buhrig Funeral Home and Crematory in Mechanicsburg, (717) 766-3421.  Read Shirley’s full obituary, view her memorial portrait, and sign her official guest book at

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Sharon Jones
   Posted Sun September 03, 2017
Dear Mom:

I'll miss our visits and our phone calls every week. You were loved so much by the Staff at Claremont Nursing home. They took such good care of you. You even said, that they were good to you and gave you everything you needed. Plus you told me, it was free. lol
Mom I love you so much and you will always be in my heart.

Love, your daughter Sharon.

Sharon Filipovich
   Posted Tue September 05, 2017

I will miss the times you would call me to tell me that Charlie Brown was on. I will miss visiting you and hearing you talk about "your kids". Kaley, Jonathan and Jake loved you and will miss visiting. I love you.


Joy Meyers
   Posted Tue September 05, 2017
Bonnie & Sharon I'm sorry to hear of Aunt Shirley's passing. My thoughts and prayers are with you. No matter how old saying good bye to our parents is very hard. Love you both.

sharon jones
   Posted Wed September 06, 2017
Happy Birthday Mom:

Today you are celebrating your 86th birthday with Aunt Charm (your twin sister) together in Heaven. September 6, 2017.

Love, your daughter Sharon

cathy Mirarchi
   Posted Wed September 06, 2017
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family..

Nancy Jo Shenk
   Posted Wed September 06, 2017
To the family, I have not seen Shirley recently but do remember her as a friendly lady who loved to iron! We are sorry for your loss and pray that God will bring comfort to your hearts.

Nancy and Jake Shenk

Carol Shenk
   Posted Wed September 06, 2017
Gram would have been 39 today. I have no idea how she always remained younger than me.

Some fond memories include: watching the "late show" (Johnny Carson), painting ceramics, being late to Thanksgiving Dinner, going in an airplane without her permission, her love of dogs, and shopping at Bullet (Target), to name a few.

She will be missed.

Your grand-daughter,

Carol and Carl Burd
   Posted Mon September 11, 2017
Our condolences to Shirley's Family. We are neighbors at "the other end of the block". Met both Shirley and Carl from their walks around the block. Our dogs Ming and Tang enjoyed stopping at Shirley's door to say hello. Tang still wants to walk up to the front door of her former home. Shirley was a very nice lady to know.


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