Shirley Anne (Tutoli) Meili

Born: Tue., Dec. 2, 1952
Died: Thu., Sep. 14, 2017


Gathering of Family & Friends

11:30 AM to 3:00 PM, Thu., Sep. 21, 2017
Location: Community Center


Time of Remembrance & Storytelling

1:30 PM Thu., Sep. 21, 2017
Location: Community Center


Closing Ceremony

3:00 PM Thu., Sep. 21, 2017
Location: Community Center


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Shirley Anne (Tutoli) Meili

A Caring Wife and Fantastic Mother -

After a valiant fight with cancer, Shirley Anne Meili, 64-years-old, passed away peacefully on the morning of September 14, 2017.  She was surrounded by people who love and cherish her.  From diagnosis to her last breaths, it was Shirley’s wish to keep the unfortunate news among only her family and closest friends.  Throughout her illness, she continued to make sure everyone around her was comfortable and happy.  She was a fighter, and her loved ones are so grateful that she is no longer in pain.

Shirley was born on December 2, 1952 in Bridgeport, CT, daughter of Anne Cretella Tutoli and the late Peter J. Tutoli, sister of Lynn Petrosino and Peter Tutoli.  She leaves behind a large group of supporters and heartbroken family members, friends, co-workers, and people she met from all walks of life.  People adored Shirley for her compassion and infectious laughter.  She was known for speaking her mind and telling it how it is, and let me tell you, she never held back.  Her memory was impeccable, and as her best friend, Starr, once said, “She could tell you what you ate for dinner 25 years ago and how much it cost and who all was there!”  Though it often came back to bite her husband, Gary, when he was reminded of something he did wrong 30 years ago. Throughout her life, Shirley won the trust and hearts of many; she was truly a gift to us all.

She will be sorely missed and survived by her mother, Anne Cretella Tutoli of Columbus, OH; her loving husband of 33 years, Gary Meili; her daughter, Lauren Meili and her significant other, Vincent Damiano, of Carlisle, PA; her sister, Lynn Petrosino and her husband, Steve, of Columbus, OH; her brother, Peter Tutoli of Indianapolis, IN; her nieces and nephews: Angela Johnson and her husband, Derrick, Aaron Petrosino and his wife, Ashley, Elliott Johnson, Elias Johnson, Nora Johnson, Michael Meili and his wife, Emily, Mark Meili and his wife, Lindsey Swank-Meili, Megan Noe and her husband, Shane; and her beloved pets, Cha-Cha and Lily.  She was preceded in death by her father, Peter J. Tutoli, who we are sure anxiously awaited her arrival at Heaven’s gates.

A dedicated employee, co-worker, and supervisor, Shirley worked at the Pennsylvania State Comptroller’s Office for 35 years before her retirement.  She also liked to stifle her daughter, Lauren, and her whining about minimum wage by telling her that she made less than $2.00 an hour at her first job.  Shirley met her husband, Gary, while they both lived in Carlisle, PA.  She swore that he would not leave her alone due to his wild attraction for her, but the couple was married on August 18, 1984, so she must have reciprocated those feelings eventually.  Married for 33 years, Shirley and Gary raised Lauren in Mechanicsburg, PA.  She lovingly referred to their trio as “The Three Musketeers”.  A caring wife and fantastic mother, she kept their world spinning and left behind a legacy that will never be forgotten or replaced.

A true family woman, Shirley had an ardent love for her parents, siblings, nieces and nephews, aunts and uncles, cousins, and everyone in-between.  She frequently traveled to Columbus, OH to visit with her side of the family, whom she loved dearly.  While at home, her hobbies included shopping sprees, reading, rearranging the household furniture, outings with friends, watching TV and movies with her daughter, cooking, praying, playing with pets, and so much more.  Shirley was a mother, wife, sister, daughter, aunt, and friend.  She was an avid Jeopardy! watcher, a woman of God, a master-stuffed-shell-maker, diehard Grateful Dead fan, Boston-sports-team-enthusiast, Old Gaelic Rugby royalty, and as some liked to call her, “Miss Sunshine”.

All are welcome to join Shirley’s family as they gather with family and friends to celebrate and remember her life with food and fellowship on Thursday, September 21, 2017, from 11:30 a.m. until 3:00 p.m. with a time a remembrance and sharing of stories to begin at 1:30 p.m. at the Community Center, 201 East Green Street, Mechanicsburg, PA 17055; with Celebrant George A. Spangler officiating.  Cremation was private.

Contributions in celebration of Shirley’s life can be made to the American Cancer Society, P.O. Box 897, Hershey, PA 17033, www.Cancer.org.

Shirley’s family has entrusted her care to Myers – Buhrig Funeral Home and Crematory in Mechanicsburg, (717) 766-3421.  Read Shirley’s full obituary, view her memorial portrait and video, and sign her official guest book at Buhrig.com.

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Ed Cain
   Posted Fri September 15, 2017
Gary,

I am sorry to hear of Shirley's passing. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Ed Cain

Steve Thompson
   Posted Sun September 17, 2017
Gary and Lauren,
It so saddens me to hear of Shirley's passing. She was a wonderful person and a good friend to me for nearly 50 years.
Lauren, your mom was so proud of you!
Gary, in you, she truly found her soulmate.
Steve Thompson

Deborah Dillard
   Posted Sun September 17, 2017
Condolence to the family and friends of Shirley. I work with Shirley for many years at the Department of PHHS. Shirley was a great person whom we all like very much, Prayers for her family. Shirley may you R.I.P

Jami Allen
   Posted Sun September 17, 2017
Gary,

I am so sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

God bless,
Jami Allen

Nancy and Jeff Cook
   Posted Sun September 17, 2017
Dear Gary and Lauren,
We are so sad for you both and send out love and hugs.
Shirley was an amazing and lovely friend who made us laugh and appreciate all the good around us.
You two meant the world to her-so sorry :(

Love, Nancy and Jeff

Dennis McCoola
   Posted Mon September 18, 2017
Gary and Lauren,
Allow me to extend my sincere condolences to you. I am sad. Shirley was one of my friends at Trinity HS and we worked at Weis Market together. She was always a lot of fun to be around. I will miss her. She is gone too soon. Aloha 'oe Shirley, until we meet again. ~Dennis McCoola, THS Class of 1970.

Steve Thompson
   Posted Mon September 18, 2017
Gary and Lauren,
Shirley's passing saddens me. You both know I thought the world of her.
Gary, you truly lost your "soul mate".
Lauren, your mom was so proud of you!
I feel blessed to have spent the time with you all so recently.
What a great lady!!!
Steve Thompson

Joe Whited
   Posted Mon September 18, 2017
My thoughts and prayers go out to you... Keep strong and goes without saying if you need anything

Celia Elmes
   Posted Mon September 18, 2017
My thoughts and prayers go out to you. May your memories bring comfort in your loss.

Sheila Bitto Clark
   Posted Mon September 18, 2017
My deepest sympathy goes out to you and your family for your loss. Shirley and I were friends in high school and everybody loved Shirley. She always had a big smile for all and she could talk you under the table. My daughter even babysat for you Lauren when you lived in Mechanicsburg. Rest in Peace Shirley.

Angela & Der
   Posted Mon September 18, 2017
A most-beautiful tribute to Auntie Shirley! She would've given it the stamp of her approval! We will miss her more than words can express. Love you so very much, Gary and Lauren. Big hugs, Angela, Derrick, Elliott, Elias, and Nora

Elisabeth Ellenbogen
   Posted Mon September 18, 2017
Worked with Shirley many years ago. Beauty and kindness were always present. My deepest condolences to her extended family.

Lynn Petrosino
   Posted Mon September 18, 2017
So sorry for our loss. The world is a lot less brighter without her in it. I miss our more than weekly phone calls and our analysis of the vacates on judge judy. So wish we could have had more time. Praying for you and asking the Lord to give you strength and peace.

Ron Hoffman
   Posted Mon September 18, 2017
Gary I am so sorry to hear about Shirley. I will be thinking of you and your family.

Kevin Oyler
   Posted Tue September 19, 2017
My sincere condolences to Gary and Lauren at the loss of your wife and mother. I can't believe I won't hear Shirley's laugh again. She was a great friend and always had a great time with Shirley. I will remember all the laughter and fun times we had together. I hope your memories of Shirley will be a comfort to you now and in the days to come.

Debbie Dare
   Posted Tue September 19, 2017
To the family of Shirley,

Sincere condolences on the physical loss of your Mother, Wife, Sister, Aunt Shirley. As a THS friend who reconnected with her in the last 4 years the world is a little gloomier with her passing. But for those who believe, she is now making ready our next home and we will once again get to experience her adorable smile and quirky humor.

Richard and Debbie Dare

Jeff Hare
   Posted Tue September 19, 2017
Gary, I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in our prayers. Jeff Hare

Laura (Baer) Beaver
   Posted Tue September 19, 2017
Gary and Lauren,
So sorry to learn about Shirley's passing. May she rest in peace. We were friends years ago when you lived in Carlisle and she first me you Gary. I only had the joy of meeting Lauren once as a wee little baby. I know how happy she was when you were born Lauren. My deepest sympathy to the family in the loss of this ray of sunshine.

Dwight Adams
   Posted Tue September 19, 2017
Dear Gary and Lauren, Sorry about losing Shirley, she's in a place where the Red Sox never lose and the Yankees never win

Randy and Christine Smith
   Posted Tue September 19, 2017
Dear Gary and Lauren,

I wanted to let you know how sad I was to hear of Shirley's passing. She was such a great lady! She was the first to welcome me to the OG family (which was fitting, because she was OG royalty) and always was the first to catch me up on what was going on in the world. I am so happy I got to know her as well as I did. She meant a lot to the Smith family. My thoughts are with you.

Randy and Christine Smith

Randy and Christine Smith

John Lyons
   Posted Tue September 19, 2017
My deepest condolences to Gary and Lauren. This is a loss that is being felt throughout the community. Shirley was a loving, caring and kind woman. She was a devoted wife and mother. A good friend. She was a constant and exuberant fan to the Old Gaelic Rugby. She will be greatly missed.

Dave Kindness
   Posted Wed September 20, 2017
Gary,

I'm sorry for your loss.

Dave.

Mary Katsonis Moyer
   Posted Wed September 20, 2017
Lynn and your family:
I am so sorry to learn of the passing of your sister, Shirley. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time.
Mary Moyer

John & Mary Ascani
   Posted Wed September 20, 2017
Gary, We were so sorry to read about Shirley's passing. You and your family will be in our thoughts and prayers.

Lee Johnston
   Posted Wed September 20, 2017
Dear Gary and Lauren,

I can't even begin to express the sadness I feel over the passing of that unbelievable woman we were all blessed to know and love.

It always felt like family when I was around her and you all.

I will miss her forever. - Lee

Kathy Kitner Liebrum
   Posted Wed September 20, 2017
Dear Gary and Lauren,

Shirley was one of those "most unforgettable characters" I was delighted to know. (I still picture her as the cutest darn skunk EVER from one Halloween we were out together.) Gary, I remember coming from State College for your wedding - and how happy she was. I am so grateful I got to see her last winter... I had no idea she was so ill. Lauren, she just glowed talking of your success that evening.

Her smile, spunk and kind heart will stay with me always. I'm sorry I'm out of state this week and can't join the celebration of her life. I will be there in spirit. May God bless you and your families with memories that bring more smiles than tears in the days to come.

In sympathy and caring,
Kathy Kitner Liebrum

JACK AND DEBBIE WARGO
   Posted Thu September 21, 2017
GARY AND MS. LAUREN, WE ARE BOTH SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS. MAY YOU BOTH HAVE THE STRENGHT YOU NEED TODAY....AND THE HOPE YOU NEED FOR TOMORROW.OUR THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU BOTH AT THIS DIFFICULT TIME. MUCH LOVE FROM THE WARGO'S.

Mike Sacoman
   Posted Fri September 22, 2017
Gary, so sorry for your loss. My prays for you and your family. Even though I never met your wife I am sure she was a great wife and mother. God Bless. Mike S

Sue Fisher Martin
   Posted Tue September 26, 2017
Dear Gary, so sorry to hear about the loss of your wife Shirley. She must have been a very special person. Sending my best wishes to you, your daughter and family.

Lucy Holder McConaghie
   Posted Tue September 26, 2017
I was so saddened to learn of Shirley's death. My heart aches for the family. There are so many happy memories that we shared, and being the same sizes, we often borrowed each others clothes. I will always miss her & remember her fondly.

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